Comments on: Chivalry

By: Is Chivalry Dead? | Cheap Date Ideas!

Is Chivalry Dead? | Cheap Date Ideas! — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 21:31:24 +0000

[...] chivalry dead? This was a simple question posed on my friend, Emma’s blog post and it inspired me to revisit this intensely debated issue amongst women who are dating or in [...]

By: karaswisher

karaswisher — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 22:52:10 +0000

You could not make a mistake?

By: Brian

Brian — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 18:54:55 +0000

You revealed the problem right there in the last paragraph: “Just simple little gentlemanly things.”

I doubt that many men have problems with being well-mannered gentlemen, but to even bother trying you would need a willing “Lady” to make the effort worthwhile. And what it takes to act like a lady for a date or occasion isn’t exactly what a modern post-feminist would be willing to even consider.

Equality, isn’t it grand?

By: Jenmy Huynh

Jenmy Huynh — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 14:18:39 +0000

Quoting Nelly Furtado eh? Pretty classy stuff Emma :)

I agree with Caitlin. I think it should be shared. People have different expectations of what they think is chivalrous. It’s about being polite and having manners. Too much of it is an overkill. A complete lack of it is sometimes considered rude. Both genders should be chivalrous and both are in different ways. People shouldn’t expect chivalry if they aren’t themselves. That’s a two way street. Treat others the way you want to be treated.

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 12:46:23 +0000

It comes down to common-sense, really… now I’m a bit idiosyncratic on this topic, as I love sending Mike flowers (which most of my female friends find absurd). I think the problem with chivalry is not so much that it’s dead, but that girls aren’t really willing to pick up their end of the bargain. Having a man hold a door for me is (I agree) a rare thing; however I wonder how long it’s been since I held one for him. I guess with the attitude of equality and feminism that is becoming prevalent in society these days, guys are terrified to be chivalrous in the first place, and I can’t say I blame them. I once witnessed a woman yell at her date in a restaurant for picking up the tab, because she thought he was making a statement about her ability to fend for herself without his help. With that kind of thing going on, I’m not too quick to slam guys for forgetting to have me on the inside of the sidewalk.
I agree with the other comment– it’s more about manners, and being raised with the right values. The guy who left you to walk alone in the dark deserves a round smack from his mother, as that’s pretty indicative of poor breeding, if you ask me. And I also find myself wishing to be swept off my feet (not making any criticism of Mike here, but we both can become remiss in the chivalry department after five years of dating). However I think that the responsibility of keeping that alive is a shared one, and maybe it’s something to consider the next time we gals moon over Mr. Darcy.

By: Donald

Donald — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 19:00:35 +0000

I don’t think that chivalry is dead, but it is dying and is becoming harder to find. Being chivalrous is an extension of being polite and having manners. Yes, children are still being raised to have manners but I don’t think to the degree that our and previous generations were. I remember as a child that every time I was impolite it would be brought to my attention and depending on the degree of impoliteness possibly even punished. Maybe due to how fast paced the world is now that all some people have time for is to at least make sure their children say please and thank you and are not outright disrespectful that the teachings of years gone by are slowly going away.

By: Will

Will — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 16:02:35 +0000

I’m going to keep my comment short and sweet (unlike my previous one lol) – Chivalry is NOT dead.