Comments on: #WriteOff09 – Day 7: Let’s Get Personal with Dealbreakers

By: Emma Brooks | Digital Media Enthusiast

Emma Brooks | Digital Media Enthusiast — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 17:11:08 +0000

[...] many of my friends know, I dislike smoking. And so I think this spot from INPES (France’s National Institute of Prevention and Health [...]

By: Dealbreakers « Brian Alkerton Wanted To Document This

Dealbreakers « Brian Alkerton Wanted To Document This — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 03:48:42 +0000

[...] 6, 2009 · Leave a Comment As inspired by Emma Brooks and Jon [...]

By: Ben

Ben — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:35:54 +0000

Pets. I like animals, but I don’t want them in my house.

By: #09writeoff – Day 7: Emma writes about dealbreakers / Dan Hocking

#09writeoff – Day 7: Emma writes about dealbreakers / Dan Hocking — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 13:44:34 +0000

[...] Monday’s post from Emma discusses those things that people do in their lives that we just can’t forgive. That’s right, we’re talking about dealbreakers. As she puts it: So. Deal breakers. They’re totally individual, may make absolutely no sense at all, and are a pretty strong motivator. And until recently, I had not given much thought to them at all. [...]

By: Emma Brooks

Emma Brooks — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 19:06:32 +0000

@Cat – Yes, I definitely wouldn’t ask someone to make life-changing decisions just so we can go on a date. For once, they won’t stick to it if it’s for someone else and two, they could end up resenting you. (Though as Maggs said yesterday, anyway to get someone to stop smoking is a good way.)

Your approach with dating someone who smokes is exactly how I deal with my friends who smoke, like my best friend. I refuse to sit outside with her if she’s having a cigarette. I will not support you in any way, shape or form. As for someone I would date, generally I just end it early enough before the feelings grow into something more serious because I do really hate it *that* much.

@Kyle – But see, you’re a very lucky man to have Kate ;)

By: Emma Brooks

Emma Brooks — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 19:01:20 +0000

Maggs! You’re saying you’d never date me? My heart is broken!

By: maggie

maggie — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 18:57:11 +0000

cough cough.
aspartame emma, freaky deaky aspartame.

By: Cat

Cat — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 14:58:59 +0000

I’m with you on the smoking – but we all have our addictions, and asking someone to make a major lifestyle change so that you can go on dates with them might be extreme. The line I take is, please don’t smoke around me, no I will not go keep you company while you do it, and don’t get upset when I don’t want to hug and kiss you or wear your clothes or stay at your place.

I’ll date a smoker under those conditions – but I won’t live with a smoker. At that stage the commitment level and life-blending is enough that I’d feel okay about pushing my desires on that a little more.

And as for the snoring… if it’s really love, trust me, you’ll just get earplugs.

By: Kyle

Kyle — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 14:51:20 +0000

As someone who snores, I find your intolerance of our condition very hurtful :(